Hello Gorgeous and welcome back to my blog! I hope you're doing well.
Today's blog post is for anyone thinking about getting back into the dating world or for those in a relationship, whether courting or married.
We've covered most of the basics of being your best feminine self. Now let's chat about how to not only be the feminine woman that you are but also how to protect and rest in your femininity while dating or in your relationship.
Firstly, you must love yourself. As the saying goes "know your worth and add tax".
When you truly love yourself and are aware of your value, you are more protective of your time and energy, you don't give yourself to just anyone, and you do not settle for the bare minimum. Do not ever lower your standards for any guy! There are men out there that would give you the universe and more. If a guy complains about your standards being too high or doesn't even make an attempt to meet them leave the situation as it is not worth being treated less than what you know you deserve.
Another essential point is to protect your peace. I've seen too many ladies nowadays stepping out of character whenever a guy disrespects their boundaries. While I understand it is upsetting and can be hurtful, you must never allow someone to get you to the point where you no longer act like yourself. Be angry, cry, and go through all the stages but remember you are a woman of grace and high value. Delete the paragraph, do not destroy his things, do not cuss at him, and do not get violent. Just walk away and let time do the rest. I myself was once the person sending extremely long paragraphs when I was upset and as I've matured I realized three things:
If the guy really wanted to fix things HE would've called to have a conversation and not argue over text
you are wasting your time, the guy knows he hurt you but he doesn't care and nothing you say will make him care.
if the situation is fixable LET HIM FIX IT you shouldn't be the one coming up with solutions on how to make things work and if it isn't a fixable situation( i.e cheating) WALK AWAY!
Move on ladies and heal. No guy is worth stepping out of character for.
Now the next point is allowing your partner to be masculine and show who they really are. Stop trying to be in control of everything, stop acting overly independent, and just relax. Continue being the soft feminine woman that you are and allow the guy to show you his true colors. Here's an example so you can understand better:
A guy asks you out on a date to a nice restaurant. You both arrive and as you approach the door instead of reaching to open the door yourself, pause and see what your date would do. Was he a gentleman and opened it for you? or did he make a fuss about you not opening the door for yourself?
either way, you get a glimpse of his character because you left room for him to do so.
Part of allowing your partner to be masculine is also learning how to receive. Receive his compliments, his gifts, and his kind gestures. Don't deny it or feel guilty about it, simply say thank you, and show appreciation, it will stroke his ego and motivate him to continue being the masculine man that he is.
Also, for the ladies that are married, if you micromanage your spouse, put a stop to that as it will make him feel less masculine and you are now the one fulfilling his roles. You have to remember that your partner is their own individual, they aren't always gonna do things the same way you do. Simply step aside and let them. If they fail, that's okay they're gonna learn from their mistakes and figure it out.
Whether you're dating, married, or courting you wanna remember to always take care of yourself and also please note that there is nothing wrong with looking good for your partner. The new norm is looking tacky at home with your spouse or significant other and then putting in the effort to go hang out with your friends. Obviously, I'm not saying you should do a full face of makeup every day just to be at home, but you have to remember that men are very visual. Put in the effort for your partner( a man that truly deserves it of course) try new hairstyles at home, wear shorter dresses, or even his favorite color. It keeps things fun and exciting in your relationship.
A tip for those of you who are dating, when going out on dates create a paper routine or checklist to make sure everything is on point. for example, your nails are well kept, your hair is washed, your legs are shaved, etc.
As stated before in my previous blog posts, when you look good, you feel good and when you feel good you get to be more confident and like your best feminine self.
With all that being said remember in all of this ladies, HAVE FUN, live in the moment, and enjoy yourself. I will be making a second part of this post as I don't want this one to be extremely long. So, stay tuned and stay gorgeous
Bye Love!
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