Hey Dolls! Welcome back to my blog, I hope life has been treating you all well.
Lately, I've been reflecting on my past relationships and all I can say to myself is "GIRL WHAT WERE YOU THINKING!!"
And the thing is, I could've avoided the time wasted had I been paying attention to the red flags before, instead of making excuses for the persons I was dating.
You know that old saying that goes "When someone shows you who they are, believe them"
Use that saying moving forward not just for dating, but also for friendships, family relationships, etc. because it's absolutely true.
There are many women who are in relationships and even though they are unhappy, they still stay in that relationship because they're waiting for the guy to change or because they're trying to be the best woman now and then show the guy what he's gonna miss after she finally decides to leave.
LADIES, please stop wasting your time. If he doesn't appreciate you now, what makes you think he's gonna care after you decide to walk away? The thing with men is sometimes when they don't have the courage to step up and just say that they don't want to be with a woman anymore, they're gonna treat you poorly until you cannot take it any longer and finally leave.
Men aren't complicated, they know exactly what they want and they're gonna work hard for what they want. You'll know a guy is truly interested in you when he puts in the work.
When he pursues you, pours into you, texts and calls without you having to ask and
when he makes time for you.
A guy is NEVER too busy for a woman he likes/loves. He can have the busiest schedule in the world but when coming to YOU he's absolutely gonna make time.
and if he really can't, he's gonna communicate with you and let you know instead of having you wondering.
Do not let a guy fool you with the "I'm just bad at communicating" If he wanted to, he would.
Men aren't bad at communicating, they just do it differently than we women would do. But regardless there's gonna be some form of communication once he's interested in you.
As I said before, he's not gonna have you wondering.
Now ladies listen when I say this if you like the idea of a guy taking charge, planning dates, providing, and giving you the space to rest in your femininity..
Run away from feminine guys!
Feminine Guys want to be chased/pursued, they do not want to be providers, They cannot protect their woman or family, and they do not have a sense of direction or discipline.
Now some women come across these guys and try to build them to fit their standards, but I've been there and it's draining. You're never going to be happy until you leave him.
You cannot change people, people change on their own time and this is only if they realize they're the problem.
I've made this mistake before and I'll never do it again, do not lower your standards for any guy. If he cannot meet them, he's not the one. Read It again.
Doing this has made me so bitter and resentful towards my past partner because it was like I let a piece of myself go to make this person happy while my needs and expectations aren't being met.
I had no one else to blame but myself because I knew beforehand we weren't equally yolked, yet I was always angry at him.
Save yourself from the constant arguing, the empty feeling, and the unhappiness.
LEAVE HIM GIRL! You should value yourself enough to know that when a guy isn't doing what he's supposed to and is clearly showing he has no interest in you, you walk away, and let better find you!
Thank you so much for reading my blog post!
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Bye my loves~❤
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